Sex in Hostels

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When people are having fun, just met each other and going out for parties, it could happen that two fellow backpackers would like to know each other a bit more... And if they just met, they probably staying in your dorms. Sad
What is your experience solving such situations, when people are having sex in the hostel?

Sometimes I jump in as a night receptionist (if a staff member gets ill or holidays etc.), on one night I found a couple bare naked in the staircase(!) having sex. I gave them a minute to dress up, they said they are sorry, finally gave them a private room for the price of the difference between their reservation. Anyway, the room was empty, they paid the extra and also they were happy I could solve their situation... And relaxed about they were not seen by any other guests or neighbors.

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http://www.hostelz.com/hostel/709-Sleep-in-Mafkees

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The "honeymoon suite" is a cheesy decorated love shack for the first lucky couple to ask for it every day. It has two single beds pushed together and a thin wall separating it from the women's dorm. It's not fantastic, but it beats the +100 dorm for the same price and it's probably the cheapest private room in Europe. The conditions of occupancy are, you can only have it one night, it's only for couples in love, and you have to kiss in front of a staff member to prove it (and they really will make you kiss in front of them).

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sex in the hostel...

if we catch 'em we tell them to go have sex in the bathroom like everyone else...they get motivated to move when we point out the security camera that was videotaping them!

We sell condoms in our vending machines as we figure we can't beat 'em so may as well join them!

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Re: Sex in Hostels

I just noticed that this thread is the "Pest Control" section Smile

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so nobody here would ask they had 'room for one more?' Tongue

oddly enough, i've seem have had a lot less issues with that here than i have at other hostels. now, i KNOW its not because nobody is getting laid, so i can only figure our guests are pretty liberal!

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one more what? if you're talking 3somes...oh, our handicap bathroom was famous for that, before we turned into an office... (don't ask).

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Hostels wrote:
I just noticed that this thread is the "Pest Control" section Smile

Haha that made me laugh. They were like pests to her Laughing out loud

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Re: Sex in Hostels

aboriginalhostel wrote:
When people are having fun, just met each other and going out for parties, it could happen that two fellow backpackers would like to know each other a bit more... And if they just met, they probably staying in your dorms. Sad
What is your experience solving such situations, when people are having sex in the hostel?

Sometimes I jump in as a night receptionist (if a staff member gets ill or holidays etc.), on one night I found a couple bare naked in the staircase(!) having sex. I gave them a minute to dress up, they said they are sorry, finally gave them a private room for the price of the difference between their reservation. Anyway, the room was empty, they paid the extra and also they were happy I could solve their situation... And relaxed about they were not seen by any other guests or neighbors.

These guys even put on a rulebok on their website http://www.frankfurt-hostel.com/faq lol. I love europeans Tongue

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Re: Sex in Hostels

I feel that many people focus on sex in backpacker hostels and miss the obvious, that to travel across to the other side of the world means that these mostly young people have; been employed, saved money, are highly organised and many have a university degree. To focus on sex misses so much that they do and see when travelling that has nothing to do with sex. It is easy to lump them all together, especially when it comes to the media, and this attitude needs to change. In nine years of working in a backpacker's hostel, I have met the most wonderful people and yes, they do have sex. So do I and bet you do too. There are things that people do that is private and in public, and we in this industry need to remember that we were once young as well. What distresses me the most is the way that some of them refuse to keep taking medication. This leads sometimes to inappropriate behaviour when it comes to sex. Supplying condoms is important because they are educated about safe sex, and although some may not want to use condoms, we need to give them access to them. What annoys other customers is when selfish people have sex in full dorm rooms and keep the other customers awake. The sex act does not bother many of them, being kept awake does. We have double beds so that couples can have privacy. Many do not want to pay, or they do not plan to get laid. Sexual predators have been thrown out of our hostel. These are usually older men, whom hover, waiting for young and vulnerable drunk females and they pounce on these females to take advantage of them. This part of sex in a hostel needs to be addressed by all staff and mostly bar staff. Backpackers will always find alcohol when refused at the bar and females are vulnerable when drunk, however when a bar staff person notices an older male, buying very strong drinks for a tipsy female, like ' shots' they should keep a keen eye on this situation as a duty of care. Sex between consenting adults is fine, however I have personally spoken to female backpackers who feel that they were raped, but they are uncertain how to go about reporting it when they were at the time very drunk. Over the years I have spoken to many pregnant female backpackers who in the past always used condoms. They note alcohol as the main reason they became pregnant due to either their inhibitions being lowered, their judgement being impaired and most frightening, drink spiking. Sex is not just happening in hostels. Yes, some of the things they do get up to make me laugh, gasp and reel back in horror but there are serious issues as well that we can do something about and that is too keep our customers safe.

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Re: Sex in Hostels

Bronwyn Gail McDonald wrote:
Supplying condoms is important...

Maybe every hostel should provide condoms. They don't even have to be for free, but just make sure they are available at the last minute.

Does anyone know of good vending machine companies for that?

EDIT: there is a thread for that here.

Bronwyn Gail McDonald wrote:
...when a bar staff person notices an older male, buying very strong drinks for a tipsy female, like ' shots' they should keep a keen eye on this situation as a duty of care.

That's a good point. There should be a dedicated thread for that topic...

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